If you are interested in marriage, and you are not sure where to find someone, you need to get your parents involved, perhaps your local imam as well, and talk to some of your friends. Marriage is considered half your deen. Therefore, you should think about marrying someone who is capable of balancing the worldly affairs and the religious affairs while keeping Allah in mind. I would like to start off by asking you to seek forgiveness from Allah for the sin that you have committed.
It is not allowed in Islam under any circumstances to maintain a relationship with the opposite without marriage. Allah advises us to lower our gazes even when considering marriage and meet in the presence of a muslim while limiting the number of times potential spouses see each other. Secondly, what you feel towards this individual is not necessarily love. It can merely be lust. Men and women are muslim. They are made to be attracted to each other. Consequently, Allah, in His Wisdom, has ordered us to limit our meetings to professional purposes only.
However, if the guidelines set by Allah are not followed, then it is not difficult for Shaytaan to intrude and deviate us in the direction for which we will have to pay for non the end.
I am not a scholar to explain this any further, for that you must consult the Ask the Scholar at Aboutislam. Therefore, your interest in him in the first dating was not commendable. However, we are all humans. We all sin. And the best ones are those who realize their mistakes and repent and turn back. If you do not let go of him, you will never be able to move on and obey the commands set by Allah for our very own benefits. Thinking about him will render you sad, depressed, hopeless and will change your life for the worst.
And Allah Knows, while you know not. However, we are not in control of his heart.
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Only Allah is. If Allah thinks that girl with him is good for you, then I am sure he will convert and come to you. However, if he decided he does not want to convert, then you, being aware of what is right should, in all honestly, politely apologize and part ways. If you do not keep yourself busy and your mind occupied, your thoughts will distract you, and make you feel restless and unsatisfied.
Indeed, Allah is with the patient. Marriage is an important part of Islam. It is a way of protection in many forms. However, Allah has declared a set time for everything, and nothing will ever happen outside of its set time.
It is possible that others have approached them with similar intentions. It is not in your control. What is in your control is your present. Spend the time listening muslim lectures about marriage. Marriage is not as easy as it seems. You need to input effort to ensure that it runs smoothly and that it is successful. As a Muslim woman who is God fearing, conscious, and trying to be pious, you "girl" strive to change yourself for the better. Nothing really matters in the end besides the piety of an individual.
If he fears and loves Allah, he will keep his wife happy. If he loves Allah, he will be seeking halal ways of earning money.
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If he loves Allah, he will love hard here and righteousness in all aspects of his life. If he loves Allah, he will be a good father. Dating if he loves Allah, he will be a source of obtaining Jannah for yourself and your future children.
I hope my answer provided the guidance that you were looking learn more here. I pray that Allah facilitates your desire to get married as bailey brewer non possible with the right person. Disclaimer : The conceptualization and recommendations stated in this response are very general and purely based on the limited information provided in the question.
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