By hhhh September 24, in Asexual Relationships. For me, I friends spending time with friends and stuff, but there is no draw to them. There isn't the same rush when I get to see them, or talk to them, I have no desires to touch them, cuddle, kiss, etc. I don't even much care about hugging with friends, Dating don't like touch much friends most people.
When I am romantically interested in a person, there is a draw. Not touching them is harder than touching them. I want to kiss, cuddle, caress, hold hands, share a bed, just generally be near them.
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So, for me it's really easy to tell. But, everyone is different. And some people, the feelings are similar enough they can't tell the difference at all. This is tough. I'm super close with my friends, and totally all about the hugs. But with my romantic partner, I want more than hugs and hangouts. I want cuddles.
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I'll sit through their terrible movie choices because I want to spend more time with them. I instinctively grab his hand when we're walking together. Sometimes he buys me flowers, just because he was thinking about me and it makes me feel all mushy inside. I guess I don't get the mushy feeling ever with friends.
My friends are great, I love them, I feel at home with them, but I don't need to see them everyday. But him, him I miss if I'm away for a few days. I feel like there is a part of me missing. It's easier, I think, for me to see the line in the sand since I've been with him for ten years and not questioning whether or not I need to date him. When we first met each other though, we just clicked. He made me laugh so much! And from then on, we were talking all the time, even though we lived hours dating from each other. If you're both questioning it, perhaps just try one date?
If it doesn't feel right, no harm, and you can return to being friends without this 'thing' hanging over you. Maybe one-on-one in a 'date' setting you'll be able to see clearly if your feelings are indeed romantic, or if you just feel like you're having a hang-out with a friend.
Good luck, friend! I've found a few more common "differences" from studying how others relate as well, but that's a great starting point.
Are you trying to cross the line from platonic to romantic?
You know, if you two can be happy without putting your relationship in a category, there's nothing wrong with that. Not everything fits in a neat little social box, and nothing has to. I'm totally with you Nice to know that someone else feels this way too. The definition of romantic vs platonic feelings varies from person to person. I stated where the line is between there for me.
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For some people, the most romantic thing ever they'd only ever want to do with a romantic partner might be reading Shakespeare together. Every person has to define the difference for themselves, because there is no one definition of "romantic". Which is why, sometimes it's hard to tell. You kind of have to know how you feel during romantic attraction vs platonic attachment to get the difference and even people who are experienced in it sometimes confuse the two.
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See serran, you and me are opposites. For me, I know someone is a close friend. If I miss them if I dont talk to them, there is not many people in this category as I dont tend to miss people most people I dont mind not speaking to at all but I class them as aquanitances or a not close friend. The concept of the draw is interesting though, I am quite happy and enjoy cuddling a close best friend but it was when I started wanting to do it ie there was more of a draw that I started questioning if it was romantic, but I think cuddling and even possibly holding hands may not be romantic to me.
The difference for me seems to be kissing. A friendship doesn't. All Activity Home Asexuality Asexual Relationships What is the difference between just being friends and dating anyway? What is the difference between just being friends and dating anyway? Start new topic. Recommended Posts. Posted September 24, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options Guest Posted September 24, Liffey Posted September 24, I read the title and my first thought was, 'I don't buy my friends dinner. Yep, me Posted September 24, The list in this post is pretty comprehensive: I've found friends few more common "differences" from studying how others relate as well, but that's a great starting point.
Not that is the definition of romantic, but can be part of it. Posted September 25, dating Sally Posted September 25, Posted September 26, Archived This topic is now archived and click at this page closed to further replies. Go to topic listing. Sign In Sign Up.