Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody. Hi all. For context Ive recently 4months split from my husband of 10 years, together for I'm Have 3 kids. Thought I'd try fb dating and have met a lovely guy who seems to tick all the boxes. Apart from being 29! We've met and got on great. Really connected and he says the same. He younger about my children and says it doesn't faze him. I've told him about my abusive ex. Doesn't faze him.

I've warned him my kids come first and that he the rsvp dating website not always come second. And it doesn't faze him! In fact nothing seems years. He says we can take it slow, doesn't want his own kids would be a deal breaker for me. So why am I so worried!! It this normal to be anxious about dating in general and the other person or am I just too new to a this! If you've transgender woman been married, it doesn't sound like you are "new to dating.

I met dh when I was 41 and he was I have dc. He wasn't fazed. We have been married 6 years and have a dc. It can be the real deal op!! But ten years down the line things may look very different for him. Have you considered spending some time single rather than rushing into dating so quickly?

I know the feeling. I started dating shortly after leaving my XH but it meant that I got very invested very quickly and ended up with someone unsuitable. Maybe consider doing the same? How many times have you met him OP? I would try not to rush things dating I were you, especially if you are very recently out of a long relationship.

Do the freedom program. Abusers often target women who have been in previous abusive relationships. Take things slowly. Do not introduce him to your children yet, or anytime soon. If he seems perfect, it's too good to be true.

Everyone has faults. You need to know him, and his faults, before you can decide whether or not to introduce him to your children. Don't be blinded by lust or love. Log in to update your newsletter preferences. OP you are weeks out of a long and abusive relationship. You need some time for you to rebuild yourself. Hey I'm not going to judge you for wanting some fun and hopefully some brilliant sex, but you are feeling like this because it's far far too soon to be contemplating another relationship.

I man most people who haven't had children themselves don't fully appreciate what it means when a partner with children says "they [the children] always come first".

I'm speaking as someone who's recently had a child so have spent most of my adult life as a child free person. The fact he has responded that he "isn't fazed" to me says he hasn't a clue how this would affect his developing relationship with you. Always being a second fiddle isn't fun when it starts playing out in dating life. Everyone can be enthusiastic to begin with, let's see what happens in reality when your weekends are ruined by various childcare commitments.

Or simply being catapulted into a family life so soon. My DP is 5 years younger, we met online. Luckily I didn't have kids with the arsehole. I started dating too soon. As others have said, I too ended up with unsuitable people in crap relationships. Then I met my DP due to me forgetting to set the age limit on my dating younger. I didn't notice immediately but felt very weird about it once I did know as I usually date men older than me, so there was 10yrs age difference between him and my usual partners.

He's aware of the domestic abuse I went through but I haven't discussed it much with him. He's in no way an abuser or taking advantage of me - not all men are like this but I've encountered those that are. He also stated categorically that he did not want children. Neither did I so seemed great. Neither of us would have planned for kids, they were accidents.

I remember being anxious when I met him and for a while after. The age gap freaked me out and made me feel like a paedo years he looked a lot younger than his age when I met him.

Took me a while to realise that he's much more mature than the older blokes I'd been dating before. I was wary that he wouldn't want to settle down, but once he was sure of his feelings the relationship started moving quite quickly. Yh yh they all say the right things at first. I'd just see how it goes, having dated a younger man that didn't want kids in my experience it means he doesn't want long term commitment and to settle down. If it helps any, I'm around your age and my partner together 5 years is 7 years younger than me.

Saying that, you're in a different stage of life you with children, him not so worth considering the differences in circumstances there.

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That's nothing to do with age, but a parent dating a 'non-parent' if that's even what it could be classified as?! But dating just click for source 4 mos of a relationship ending seems more of an issue. I would need more time click the following article that to get myself together, but i guess every one is different.

When I say I've told him about my abusive ex, all he knows is that currently I have a restraining order against him. Nothing else. I didnt date before my husband really, I was a teenager.

I think you are all right in that it's too seriously dating a succubus for me to date. I wasn't looking for a relationship, more of a few casual dates, bit of man pick me up I suppose, to know that I'm still wanted despite the kids and what my ex said. Online dating profile have been happy with a friends with benefits arrangement tbh, but he wants more.

I think having man think about that. Pissed off neighbour 22 I'm worried about the years thing too!! Worried what his friends will think and mine and if we would have anything in common. I can't imagine hanging round 20 somethings with no responsibilities and having something in common! You may be picking up the vibe that tells you to run because it is too good to be true, especially after such a short time together.

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Look, if you have alarm bells ringing so loud around you, listen to them. And be careful, after putting up with abuse at home it may take you a while to learn to identify prospective abusers especially as they are good at love bombarding. Put dating on hold for the time being, find about the Freedom Program and be back to date when the time is better and you are better prepared to keep your gear safe.

Have fun. Like many others, I started 'dating' immediately after the end of a LTR. Often people who have been in an abusive relationship, think the new partner is amazing, when actually they're just less bad than the previous one. You need to be careful. It would concern me that he doesn't want children, but is unfazed by yours. To me, that says that either he doesn't see them impacting your relationship and has no idea what it means, in reality, when you say they come first.

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