Marry a person based on his character, not his religion. I'm the wife of an intern and we try to make a night each week to go do something, just the two of us. Somehow I never believed any of that; I wanted a career and a small family and never believed religion was a way to identify good character. No beliefs are protected from challenge, the rules of evidence, or derision. First of all, Mormons are people so there is a spectrum of what they actually believe on a personal level, and what beliefs are most important to them.
Do you want a home that is focused on the church with all of the blessings there of or a home that is devoid of the blessings of the priesthood, Sundays without your husband at your side at church with your children celebrating in the gospel. I married a person, not a religion. He came to bed at 1: I don't know if I can make this work. Reading all your comments makes me feel sometimes uplifted, other times scared as hell. Though being with a resident is hard, it can be totally worth it if you're committed to the person and you know that they are committed to you - you just have to realize that commitment will look different coming from them.
But she probably is more in love with the idea of you, than with you. Good luck to you and your boyfriend. I thought I was very understanding and, while I did invite her out at other times, I was very clear that her studies were paramount and I wanted to support her as best as I could during this time. I dated non mormon men. That desire that they be someone other than who they were when they married you is toxic to a relationship. Really, I'm interested in this too.
Here is a list of reasons I feel apply to my situation в some of them in retrospect:. I have seen love prevail over beliefs. Thanks for letting us know. You can have all the time in the world and not be committed. Would she be okay with having a home that is split religiously. You will have to bring her down to reality. I let people assume what they will. Joanna has written a good answer here. If you go yourself, you'll see - those people are good people.